I’m writing this in the hopes that anyone considering dating Erich Dewease googles him first and makes the smart decision to walk away instead. I wish there had been something like this when I first met him. The “man” in this picture is Erich Dewease. He often uses the username dewuss, but since I posted this picture he changed his Instagram username to @erich_dewease and his twitter handle to @erichdew. As of February, 2015 he is my ex-husband. The thing he was hiding from? The game he and his stupid little man-faced homewrecker of a girlfriend Lauren Furey (who is now, hilariously, his wife)(pictured) are playing? That was our marriage.
It might seem like I’m just an angry ex-wife. And oh yes, I am. And he may tell you some awesome fairy tales about how crazy I am (as is his childrens’ mother, his first wife, and every woman he’s ever dated… see a pattern here?) But that doesn’t make what Erich Dewease is any less true.
You can ask his children’s mother (although I wouldn’t.. she’s a hateful, angry woman. Not that I blame her. I see why now.)
You can ask his first wife.
He cheated on both of them, although he only told me about having cheated on his kids’ mom (“and I just don’t want to be that kind of man anymore”).
He will tell you stories about how crazy I am, but what he means is how justifiably pissed off I am. Read on if you are even considering dating this man. Oh, and if Lauren Furey is reading this, you need to know two things besides the fact that you should have enough self respect not to be the other woman:
One, the whole time he was cheating on me with you (though I didn’t know he was at the time) he was telling me he wanted to work on us. He wanted to fix us. He came back to me several times. Did you know he was here in Tennessee from May to July (2014), still using the phone you’re paying for? And you’re a sucker for paying for that phone for him (or is it your sister who’s the sucker?).
Two, did you know he’s on several dating sites (still true as of 2025)? And that he has recently asked out a woman he went to high school with? You’re already not the only one, sweetheart. In fact, I just got some new information that between July and September of 2014 he was with at least four women, telling all of them that he and I were done, all the while telling me he wanted to work on us. I’ve actually talked to some of those women, who feel horrible because he lied to them about our status. You should feel horrible, too, Lauren. Why don’t you go get some self-respect and your own man? (Oh, wait, now he IS your problem… um, I mean, “man.”)
Erich Dewease is a liar. Erich Dewease is a cheater. Erich Dewease is a coward. Erich Dewease is a con-man. Erich Dewease is a narcissist and a sociopath.
“Narcissism involves cockiness, manipulativeness, selfishness, power motives, and vanity-a love of mirrors. Related personality traits include: Psychopathy, Machiavellianism. Narcissists tend to have high self-esteem.” – Psychology Today
“16 Behavioral Characteristics of a Sociopath: Superficial charm and good intelligence; Absence of delusions and other signs of irrational thinking; Absence of nervousness or neurotic manifestations; Unreliability; Untruthfulness and insincerity; Lack of remorse and shame; Inadequately motivated; antisocial behavior; Poor judgment and failure to learn by experience; Pathologic egocentricity and incapacity for love; General poverty in major affective reactions; Specific loss of insight; Unresponsiveness in general interpersonal relations; Fantastic and uninviting behavior with alcohol and sometimes without; Suicide threats rarely carried out; Sex life impersonal, trivial, and poorly integrated; Failure to follow any life plan” – Psychology Today
Erich Dewease cares about two things, and two things only: Money and status. He will tell you some awesome sob stories. He will tell you how much he wants to be a part of his childrens’ lives. But he will also convince you to buy things for him like he already has with Lauren Furey (and if you cosigned on his car you’re a bigger fool than I thought, but karma knows your name, so enjoy). He will convince you of whatever he thinks you want to hear. He MARRIED me, for crying out loud, even though he obviously never had any intention of taking that marriage seriously and decided to leave as soon as I was no longer a good source of money or status (which would be five months into our marriage, if you’re counting).
When Erich Dewease and I first started dating, I was a minor “celebrity” in Maryland. I use that term loosely, but it was enough so that it made him feel like a big deal to tell people he was with me. To brag about the concerts we got to go to as part of my job. About a month after we started dating I got a phone call from a woman whose name I can’t remember now, but she told me he wasn’t a good man, and that he had just asked her out a few days earlier. I asked him about it and without hesitation he gave me a very plausible story about how he’d sold her a car, they went out a few times, he slept with her a few times and then ended things with her, and that she was just nuts and trying to get revenge. I chose to believe him. Turns out I should have believed her.
One thing you’ll find out about Erich is that he is the unfortunate victim of a repeated series of misfortunes that he has no control over, or so he’ll tell you. A few examples:
For our first vacation together, Erich said he wanted to take me away for a long weekend at the beach. But the day we left – payday – a “mixup” happened with his paycheck and he didn’t have any money all weekend, so I paid for the whole trip.
At some point shortly after we started dating his car was repossessed because, he said, he was “a week late on one payment.”
Yes, I should have seen all of these things as red flags, but his explanations were SO believable that I overlooked them. And continued to do so whenever things like this came up, which in hindsight was a lot. Ask him about the time the state of Maryland froze his bank account because, he said, they claimed he owed back taxes for a year he didn’t live in Maryland, but when he got it cleared up, they never gave him back the money that was in that account.
When we’d been dating a little less than a year, Erich proposed to me, although I’d never asked him to and in fact had told him not to, because I was perfectly happy with what we had. But when he proposed, I said yes and I was ecstatically happy.
After that, we left Maryland for Memphis. We’d had some problems right before then (partly involving — guess who? Yes, that’s right, Lauren Furey), and I was going to leave town because it looked like we were breaking up. Apparently, he told people we were breaking up because I was going to leave. Not true. In fact, when he found out I got the job offer in Memphis, he apologized for being an asshole, said he didn’t want to lose me, and asked to come with me. I now know that he wasn’t paying his share of the rent, and I owned the car he was driving, so if I left without him he’d be homeless and car-less.
In Memphis I was going to have to start all over again in building my “celebrity” but before I could do that we moved to Nashville for a job he got there. By the way, I lost count of how many jobs he had in the last two years we were together but it is not an exaggeration to say it’s around 16. In Nashville I was no longer “famous” and there were real celebrities there, so being with me didn’t make him such a big deal, nor did saying he knows artists because everyone knows artists in Nashville. And he lost the job we moved for almost as soon as we got to town.
He gave me some very believable sob stories about how he wanted to re-establish his relationship with his children (who he chose to abandon, by the way), and that his children’s mother told him that as long as any woman was in his life, he could not see his children because he wouldn’t give them enough attention.
So when he left Tennessee for Maryland on December 13, 2013 (our five month wedding anniversary) for what he said was a long weekend with his children, I didn’t complain or anything. But as soon as he got there he told me he wasn’t coming back, and that my being in Maryland with him would prevent him from being able to see his children. But he did come back a couple weeks later. And then he left again. And then he came back. And left again. And came back. At one point he actually MADE UP A STORY ABOUT HIS CHILDREN BEING IN A CAR ACCIDENT WITH THEIR GRANDMOTHER (I called the hospital. They weren’t there.) so he would have an excuse to go back to Maryland for their birthdays, as if I would ever have tried to stop him from seeing his kids for their birthdays, or any time for that matter. He finally came back in May, swearing that this time it would be for good, and together we would work on getting me a job in Maryland so we could go back together.
And then in July he supposedly got served papers to go to court because his overdue child support hit $40,000 while he was going back and forth, getting and leaving jobs every time and never earning enough money to make any support payments, and he thought he’d be sent to jail. We were living entirely on my income. I actually gave him money to come back here every time, and until the time he snuck out of our house after I went to work and left me a goodbye note written with a sharpie, he had access to my bank accounts (and he completely drained them the last time he left), but that’s when that access ended.
At some point, he also took money regularly from his friend Roy, with whom he lived in Maryland until he snuck out of the house to — unbeknownst to Roy and his family — come back to Tennessee, with never a look back or attempt to repay him.
The fact is, I asked his children’s mother whether she’d said that if he had any woman in his life he couldn’t see his children, because it doesn’t make sense to me that she’d be ok with a homewrecker who doesn’t respect a man’s marriage as an example for her children, but she’s not ok with his WIFE. Between her venomous insults about how stupid I was (because she was KNOWING fooled by him? Ok, bitch), she told me that as long as he kept up with his financial responsibilities she didn’t care who he spent his time with but that she did say *I* could never be a part of their lives because she knew (correctly, as it turns out) that I was just another in a long line of women. I’m not mad at her for being a bitch. She’s earned every bit of it and her opinion of me affects me in no way at all. (By the way, when she told Erich I’d contacted her, he emailed me a week later and called me a “fucking stalker” and said if I wanted to make things more difficult he’d be happy to do that and it would be a lot more heartbreak for me. Yep, he THREATENED ME. This is not the man I married.) (This was before the many times he tried to threaten me over this website, the result of which being that I have continued to renew the hosting for it much longer than I otherwise might have. Woe is me.)
So, he gets served for court, and tells me our July 13 wedding anniversay was “just another day” that didn’t mean anything, and that he was leaving the following week for Maryland and had gotten a job with the same company there that he was working for here in Nashville. But before he left he told me he still saw me in his future, that he understood that he needed to get himself right first and that he would work on it. He also told me he would continue to help me with the bills he helped me get into and that if “for whatever reason” we didn’t work out, he would make sure I was financially taken care of. “I will NOT let you fail,” he said. (Note: the only reason I’m NOT failing today is because he’s gone. Without him, I’ve bought two houses and my credit score is no longer being tanked by his access to my identity. So thanks for the help, dipshit.)
From July through September (2014) he did continue to have money direct deposited into my account with each paycheck, although not as much as he’d promised, and he did seem to be trying to work on us. (Hey Lauren – if you want to see the emails and text messages he sent me about how much he loved and missed me and regretted fucking us up and how I was all he needed, holler at me. I’ll send ’em right along).
You might wonder why I kept giving him chances, given everything you’ve read so far. And you’d be right to wonder. But I believed in marriage. I believed in my commitment “for better or worse” and was willing to fight for our marriage. And he had me believing he was conflicted about trying to have a relationship with his boys and one with me. That he would have to figure out how to have both, and would work on his issues. But that if his childrens’ mother forced him, he was willing to sacrifice our marriage for his children.
Unfortunately I had no idea who this “man” really is. He never had any intention of working on his issues. He seems to be pretty proud of them. And he didn’t sacrifice our marriage for his children at all. He sacrificed our marriage for that little girl in the picture up there and anyone else he can get into bed. It was never about his children at all. He still rarely sees them, in fact. Marriage actually means nothing to him except income and a place to live.
After he stopped giving me money in September 2014(but promised several times to deposit money in my account and didn’t), he stopped communicating, and when he did, he was hostile most of the time. He later told me he was in “no position” to support me financially or emotionally.
In October of 2014 he posted a picture of himself out with Lauren Furey and some other girl on Facebook, and made the settings public because at some point during his back and forth bullshit, he had unfriended me. And he knew that Lauren Furey was one of a very few people I did not like him spending time with. Posting that picture and making sure I could see it was just a huge act of disrespect. He hadn’t had time to call me in several days (“I wish I had time for a social life,” he said) and yet he had time to be out with her, of all people. And at that moment, I knew we were over and made an appointment with a lawyer, but since he’d drained my bank accounts I had to wait a bit to file.
In November, I noticed that Lauren Furey had commented “cpcp (xoxo)” on one of his checkins on Facebook. When I asked him about it, he said “Lauren and I are not together, she was really drunk that night and it was probably a typo.” See, “cpcp” is what he used to use with ME in place of “xoxo” because, he said, the c and the p are next to the x and the o, and it meant he would always be by my side. (Yeah, corny, but he said shit like that) Did he tell you that, too, Lauren? I told him I didn’t believe that because she used it correctly, and he said, “well, she must have done some stalking because I would never use something like that with her.” About a week later he posted pictures of himself and Lauren Furey at a charity ball. One of the captions had song lyrics in it where he referred to her as his muse. He used to call me his muse, in fact he used it in one of his most recent but less angry emails to me. And I called him on it, by text of course, because he’s too much of a coward to have a conversation with his wife.
I said, “so…. this person you’re not with and would never use cpcp with is your muse?” And he tried to make me believe she had taken his phone and put those song lyrics there herself. This man, whose phone never leaves his hand and who changes his password frequently so however many women he’s fucking over at once won’t see anything, thought I would believe she took his phone and posted that.
It was at that point I started hearing from his friends. Once I publicly acknowledged what I knew, they came out of the woodwork. I heard from some people here in Nashville who told me he’d said the reason he was going back to Maryland without me was that I didn’t want anything to do with his kids (and that I would not allow him to be with his kids). Not true. Let me repeat that he told me my presence in Maryland would hurt his ability to see his children.
I heard from MANY of his friends in Maryland, some I had met before and some I hadn’t but they knew who I was because he made our early relationship and marriage very public on his Facebook page. That’s when I found out that when he first left last December, on our five month wedding anniversary, he started bringing Lauren Furey to get-togethers with his friends. His friends knew he was still married and thought he was an asshole but nobody wanted to be the first to tell me. But now that these pictures were public and his friends (and family, by the way) were so disgusted with his behavior they all started coming forward.
That’s also when I found out he’d recently asked a high school classmate out, and she didn’t really remember him from school so she asked another classmate who had seen what he’s been doing to me and told her to run very far away. Almost without exception, his friends (and family) said things like, “we all thought he’d changed when he met you.” So this isn’t a new thing. And they’ve all said they don’t want anything to do with him anymore. He has taken money from them and me, he’s taken advantage of his friends and family and wife and then turned his back on all of them, apparently so he can sleep with everything that moves. The only reason I can guess he’s chosen Lauren Furey is because she’s young and stupid enough to pay for his shit and she’s easy to manipulate. Plus she can get him tickets to sporting events and concerts. See? He’s a big deal again. Oh, and he’s 40 and she’s in her 20s. Poor thing has no idea. She’s about to find out, though.
When I confronted him with the truths I’d found out, he got angry with ME, and said he was done with me and with his former best friend Roy and that he THOUGHT those people were his friends. Yeah, Erich, it was THEIR bad for telling your wife you were cheating on her. He also told me that *I* should be embarrassed. Me. The one who isn’t cheating and flaunting it. That’s just one example of the gaslighting he did to me over that last year. When I say he is a narcissist, it’s truly in every sense of the definition.
At one point, I also heard from someone I’d met before (and still adore) who informed me that he said the reason he couldn’t pay the rent he’d agreed to for a room he rented was because all of his money was tied up in an account that I control. Let me be clear. I have NONE of his money. He owes the person he was renting the room from $2,250. He quietly moved his things out while the owner of the house was out of the country and never said a word to anyone, and now won’t return their calls or texts, and when his friend who set up the arrangement tried to reach out to him about it on Facebook, he unfriended and blocked her. What he told me about needing to move out of that person’s house was that it was nasty because the guy’s dogs peed everywhere. What was actually happening was that he knew he was about to be asked to leave for not paying, and he had finally convinced Lauren to let him move in with her. Therefore, she is his “tomorrow.” At least until the actual tomorrow when she gets sick of paying the rent and his car payment by herself, and living paycheck to paycheck.
So now I know that I had NO idea who this man really was. I now don’t believe a single word he has EVER said to me. And if after reading this you still think it’s a good idea to date him or trust him in any way, I can’t help you. But I’ll tell you that you should not give or loan him money (he will not pay you back), don’t buy him anything and don’t believe his sob stories about why he is ALWAYS broke, because he has a great job and makes a lot of money. He is not your friend, your boyfriend or anything else unless you can and will do something for him that helps him financially or with his status. He’s charming, he’s manipulative and he will turn the tables on you if you try to question him (“You don’t TRUST me? That’s just fucking great.”)
For 10 months he strung me along and made me think he had any love for me and that we were going to work on our marriage, all the while fucking Lauren Furey and at least four other women, and all the while communicating almost exclusively by text and email because he was too chicken shit to just own up to what he was doing, tell me about it and walk away. He told me by email that he wanted a divorce but never actually went to file. I had to do that dirty work.
So, let me say again: Erich Dewease is a liar. Erich Dewease is a cheater. Erich Dewease is a coward. Erich Dewease is a con-man. Erich Dewease is a narcissist and sociopath. And Erich Dewease thinks he’s a big enough deal that he can flaunt his cheating behavior publicly and nobody should think less of him for it. Refer back to that picture at the top of the page. He seems to be pretty proud of the fact he was fucking around on his marriage, doesn’t he?
And Lauren? You deserve him, because if you’re willing to give yourself to a married man, you deserve exactly what you get and I hope karma finds you both and kicks you in the ass. Actually, I hope by now you’re finding out about those car payments he’s not making and credit cards he’s taking out in your name while he’s still cheating on you.
Update: On January 1, 2015, Erich texted me and his family members saying we can love him or hate him but his choices are his own. I’m not sure what the point of that was, we all know nobody else made him be a cheater and a liar. When his father and stepmother responded by telling him what a piece of shit he is, he replied to all of us with a picture of himself kissing Lauren Furey. Poor girl has no idea what she’s in for. What kind of asshole does that, when all I did was love and support him? I’ll tell you what kind: a liar, a cheater and a narcissist.
You’ve been warned. And if you’ve slept with him I might suggest you get yourself tested for STDs. (He emailed me trying to shame me for that part. I stand by it)
Update February, 2015: It’s amazing how many ex-girlfriends and one night stands and casual sex partners and recent dates keep coming out of the woodwork to tell me that Erich has ALWAYS been like this, and that he continues to lie about me and our marriage. In fact, he contacted at least one of those on February 15, 2015 (while Lauren was in Mexico, by the way) to ask “what went wrong with us?” I know because she reached out to apologize to me. If any other women who fit into any of those categories find it necessary to contact me to tell me what he’s done or apologize, please don’t. I’m well aware that I married a manipulative liar who told you something that isn’t true because he wanted to get you into bed. Or get into your bank account, eventually. (Because he can’t get one of his own…. ask him why! But don’t believe a word of it). I don’t need more evidence that he’s a lying piece of shit. But do spread the word. Everyone else should definitely know.
And this next part is so absurd you’re probably going to think I made it up, but I don’t have this good an imagination. Not only did Lauren Furey go get herself a job at my former radio station (I mean, what?!), she also showed this website to my former coworkers without bothering to find out who actually still likes me there (and more do than you think, Lauren) in some kind of attempt to make me look bad, I guess. She doesn’t seem to realize that maybe she should be embarrassed by what’s written here, not me. She also doesn’t seem to realize that, whether they like me or not, the people who work at that radio station and know me also already know Erich, and they think he’s a joke. A piece of garbage. So I can only come to the conclusion that Lauren is stupid as well as a homewrecker. How she can read all of this and not see a single red flag, I have no idea. I wonder what excuse he gave you for not being able to get his passport in time for Mexico, huh Lauren? P.S. you’ve got my ex and my former workplace. You want the rest of this sandwich I was eating, or nah?
If you are reading this – Lauren or anyone else – just think about this: why do think it is that his family and lifetime friends have walked away from him? Forget what excuses he’s given you. Really think about it. He is not a victim. He is a con man, and people are finally starting to see him for what he really is.
Update, July 2015: I don’t see many more updates happening because he’s not worth my time to think about, but this was just too good. A friend of a friend who knows Erich was recently exposed to this website. She said that she asked Erich what went wrong between him and me, and this is what she told our mutual friend: “He told me he cheated and that it was because she was working too much and was too involved with other things and that he was her eye candy.” He also told this friend of a friend that the reason I divorced him was because my feelings were hurt by his cheating.
For the record, I worked fewer hours in Tennessee than I ever did when we first got together. My guess is that fact kept him from cheating more here, which I’m sure he was doing. And by the way, the hours I was working made for that paycheck I earned that supported his broke ass that couldn’t hold a job. Also for the record, as far as I know, when neither of us was working we spent all our time together, so me being “too involved with other things” is a load of crap. Don’t even get me started on the “eye candy” part. I actually laughed out loud when I read what he told this person. He’s actually trying to blame ME for him being a piece of shit. Nice try, homey. But more and more people have seen your true colors.
Update, September 2015: I swear I don’t make any effort to track what’s happening with this giant piece of shit, but somehow the information keeps coming to me anyway. Guess that’s what happens when you lie to and screw over every person you’ve ever met. It was brought to my attention that he had left that cushy job at Honda of Tyson’s Corner – the one where, he said, after a year and a half he’d get his own dealership and be a millionaire. Barely made it a year, as far as I can tell. He went to Fitzgerald Auto Mall, a place he never wanted to work because he can’t make commission there and screw people out of more money. When I heard that, I said, “He won’t be there long.” And lo and behold, I find out less than a month later he’s already moved on to Ourisman in Bethesda. What’s great about this is that karma is hitting in multiple ways: he still can’t keep a job, every job change puts him further behind on his child support and closer to going to jail, and every time he changes jobs, he stops bringing in money, meaning the girl child is paying for EVERYTHING. I fully believe you get what you deserve. And the “brand new Erich” I heard about has proven to the world he’s still the same giant piece of shit he’s always been.
One more thing: if you’re an employer considering hiring Erich Dewease, his resume is almost a complete fabrication. In just the little time he was in Nashville off and on between August, 2013 and July, 2014, he worked at the following places (and I’m probably missing some), which you can contact and verify, none for longer than 2 months, and most for less than a month:
- Ford of Murfreesboro (August-September 2013)
- Beaman Toyota (About two weeks in September, 2013)
- Clear Channel Radio (October-December, 2013)
- Crown Ford
- Downtown Nashville Nissan
- Mini of Nashville (May-July 2014)
Seriously, if you are considering dating (or sleeping with) or hiring Erich Dewease, watch your back, watch your money, and be prepared for disappointment.
Update August 30, 2016: It’s been a while since I’ve had anything I felt it necessary to add, although in the year since my last update I’ve been contacted by investigators (yes, plural) who I’ve gleefully helped, seen evidence of at LEAST five job changes and oh! Can you say jail time? Maryland Case Search is your friend. Google it. But this was just too good. Because today, your friend Erich Dewease was seen (again!) on Tinder. A quick check of his Facebook page shows he’s still got little miss prom queen Lauren snowed and yet… here he is, looking for more.
Now, this is the part where he’ll tell you that a) that’s just an old account he forgot to deactivate, because look how old that photo is! He hasn’t worked there in close to a year! Or b), he’s only on there because it’s such a trainwreck to look at that it’s fun. Yeah, that’s what he tried to tell me at the end when my friends started seeing him on there. BUT. And this is good. The person who saw him this time swiped right, just to see what would happen. Have you already guessed? Let me not keep you in suspense. Because it was THIS:
It’s good to see the “new and improved Erich” is still a lying cheater who can’t hold a job. I’d feel bad for Miss Thinks It’s OK To Be With Someone Else’s Husband, because I know she’s paying his bills and attorney fees and vacations and everything else while he’s finding new victims on Tinder. But I don’t. Karma is a bitch, y’all.
By the way, if you have any reason to doubt any of this, or he has somehow convinced you that I am (still) the source of all his troubles, I invite you to search his name on Maryland Case Search. You’re welcome!
2025 Update: When I first wrote all this, shows like the Tinder Swindler, Dirty John, and Love, Con, Revenge weren’t popular yet. But looking back over this site and comparing his cons to the men in those shows makes it clear he’s even a disappointment as a con man. Also, process servers and investigators are still calling me when they need to find him, which would be annoying if it didn’t give me so much joy to know nothing has changed and it’s not my problem anymore.
Dewease is a sociopath. Do not date Erich Dewease. Do not marry Erich Dewease. Erich Dewease will lie to you. Erich Dewease will take your money and run. Erich Dewease has never kept a commitment in his life. Look up the definition of narcissist and sociopath and you will see a full description of Erich Dewease. Erich Dewease is a thief. Erich Dewease is a deadbeat. Lauren Furey is a homewrecking whore. Lauren Furey dates married men. Lauren Furey likes to break up marriages. Lauren Furey is going to meet karma when Erich does the same thing to her. Lauren Furey is a fool. Lauren Furey is a troll. Lauren Furey thinks it’s ok to fuck your husband.